People using the phrase “mommy guilt” are ever present in
this culture as a feeling of guilt when they perceive they aren't being the
best they can be, or are doing life differently than other moms. I was having a
conversation the other day with my husband about this; he simply said, “that’s
not guilt, that’s pride.” Ouch! That was
painful and convicting for me to say the least. There is SO much pressure on
mothers today, to be a domestic goddess, to be gorgeous and fit, to have an
incredible social life, to volunteer for community or church events, and not to
mention just to be an overall creative and sensational wife and mother. The
problem that lies with our mentality is the comparison and pride. We desire our
life to look perfect and when we have illness, financial difficulty, a hard
pregnancy, or other difficulty we feel guilty about not having it all together.
It stems from one thing--PRIDE. We want to have it all together.
Where are the
women of today who will be honest enough to say, "I don’t have my life together
but I am trying each day to be the best I can be with the Lord’s strength and direction"?
Stop feeling guilty over the pressure of “requirements” from other people, and
start savoring in the goodness the Lord has given you today and not wallowing
in the guilt of expectations from others. When we expect too much of ourselves
or of others we get caught in this “mommy guilt” nightmare and can’t enjoy the
wonderful things we do have.
Remember that each family has their own unique
convictions and direction they are going in. Instead of comparing yours and
feeling guilty that you aren't doing the same, take pleasure in the way God is
leading your particular family and bask in His blessings as you walk in
obedience.
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